Supporting Your Spouse During a Military Transition

Anthony
April 24, 2018

 Whether you are crossing off the days on the calendar or wringing your hands  in anticipation of the new adventures ahead, the  active duty to civilian career transition process  can be long and stressful.

 As most spouses know, there is really very little official work that  can be done on behalf of the soldier in helping them navigate, prepare,  finalize the paperwork, attend workshops, and take phone calls on the Army  side of the house.

So, what can Military Spouses do?

 You've been by your soldier's side through it all. You've endured  and outlasted the many odds against you and you are ready to be just as  involved in this military transition process as everything else. But how?

Here are a few ideas to get you started:

     
  1.    Networking - The military spouse community is small, but    the connections are wide! Between units, schools, locations, volunteer    organizations, and moves, you've created an expansive network of    connections. In mind of employment and career options, reach out to those    you know who've already positioned or who used specific services for job    placement and resume assistance. A few emails with a, "Hey, we are    getting out soon. Any advice or direction?" can go a long way. Sit down    together with your spouse and make a list of 10-20 people you can reach out    to and reconnect with. Use the strong community ties to your advantage.  
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  3.    Research - Knowledge is power. While most of the transition    is out of your control, you can understand and utilize the many venues and    services out there catered to the military community. Whether you start by    filtering through the various VSOs (Veteran Service Organizations), veteran    community organizations, or work to understand the purpose and place of the    VA in your retired life, the more clarity and information you have to align    with your changing path the better.  
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  5.    Active Listening - Resiliency training and re-integration    phases often stress the importance of communication with your spouse. The    cycle of stress is real. Mutual support and understanding of each    others' goals, needs, and wants during this phase of life will impact    the overall emotional and mental success of the transition. Serious    conversations on the course of a career, relocation, financial changes, and    role reversal PRIOR to the transition beginning will assist in an easier    roadmap as the transition plays out. But just as active duty life changes    with little notice, this experience together will be no different. So stay    open, connected, verbal, and also listening to your partner.  

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